..we’re loosing the battle, as long as we hold on to control, to our illusion of ‘protection’ avoiding, justifying and explaining ourselves, why we are right!!
In my life, I have been trying so hard to proof to myself and others that I was smart, that I was perfect! I was wounded early in my childhood by people close to me that had a little fun, calling me: ‘stupid’. I worked so hard to prove others wrong, that I ended up with an emotional and physical stress disorder. Through my personal development work, I finally gained awareness that I have always been smart and pretty perfect:)!! Yet, even now in my sixties, whenever, someone tries to fault me for not doing my best, I can feel my inner resistance, a gut reaction of anger come up. Today, I am too aware to allow my reaction to surface and instead my ‘voice of awareness’ will override my deep emotional wounding. That is how I build new neurological pathways in my brain that will eventually become as strong and even stronger than the pathway of my ‘Wounded Self’.
My relationships to men were compromised early in my life, having observed my parent’s interactions. A dominant mother and a weak, often absent father.
I had a deep desire to create a successful relationship with the opposite sex, yet, at the same time unconsciously I was very fearful of such a commitment.
For more than 25 years, I kept choosing men, who, just like my dad, were emotionally unavailable and of course, I had unrealistic expectations.
I eventually got tired of the blame game.
It was only through doing my personal growth work that I woke up to realizing that unless I surrendered to vulnerability which equals trusting men and making myself available to them. I eventually allowed to be chosen, which helped me to break my ‘old story of men’ and got me on a wonderful path of a very happy marriage to an amazing man!!